Sunday, August 01, 2010

the Date of the Day

Well, I've played with the blogger template some more.  A little change here and there is nice, every once in a great while.

I've got some time off and hoping that I'll enjoy it.  I'm not good with lots of unstructured time.  I'm bad.  Which may be better.  Or not.  More staycation as little vacating will occur.  Unless of course, it does.  With me, you just never know.  Never.

And in other news . . . .

So.  I have had a few dates. With guys.  And I've had some conversations.  And, I have hooked up with a few.  And, with some, I've had all three.  Look, you could count all this on one hand; maybe with half the other hand.  So we're not talking as much as it sounds.  I guess.

What am I looking for?  How do I decide, figure out, discern?  And what is it I'm deciding, discerning, or figuring out?  Do we do a piece of newsprint on the wall with 'pluses and minuses' for each? Am I opening myself to something or just shopping?  Or none of the above.

I'm working to give up on searching and just wait to be found.  Maybe.  But there is one guy. . . . . . .

Maybe.

13 comments:

Ultra Dave said...

Right there with you! Wishin you the best!

Sean said...

I always found it was two things: First, love at first site - that spark when you first see him. I never fell in love with someone even for a week without it and Second, if I had a good time, then I'd go out with him until I didn't. Rather than put expectations on him, I tried to see what we'd become together.

Sean said...

Oh, and I am watching 500 Days of Summer as I comment. You should see this movie.

Cubby said...

"But there is one guy..." Woo hoo!!! That's great news!!

behrmark said...

In my limited experience, it's when I'm NOT looking that someone wonderful - even if for a little while - enters into my life. If I look, fret, plan, cajole, beg, weep, demand, or prowl it never happens. Be patient. And know that there is a plan for you and, quite frankly, in someone else's hands. HUGS!

Anonymous said...

I know it is easy for me to say, but just don't overthink it. Enjoy your time. It will happen! You are a great catch!!

And thanks for your hospitality! Nick and I had a truly wonderful time. You are a great host!

Benton

Ur-spo said...

I suggest you enjoy what happens, with no thought of where any of this is going. Eventually, quite when you are not expecting it, something will solidify into something special. Meanwhile, it is having fun.

Lemuel said...

I have to admit that I more than giggled when you got to the part in the post in which you pondered taping newsprint to the wall to list the pluses and minuses. Since you are and I was in the same business, my mind raced immediately back to those many days, seated in a circle, with the walls covered in newsprint. Before my mind made me race screaming from that mental room, I giggled uncontrollably at the thought of the entire board on a weekend retreat in a room with a sheet of newsprint on the wall for each "candidate". Half of the board is opposed to Candidate A because he'll cost too much money. Old gray-headed Mrs. Swithins is opposed to Candidate B because "we've never done it his way before" ;) And Candidate C...

Mr. Chairman, I move that we let the CEO decide based on his own experience as to who is the best fit.

*eg*

HUGS, Joe! Just relax, go with the flow, and have a great time with the "interviews". :)

Ice John's World said...

Just go with the flow and enjoy the company. Your mind and feeling will guide. You will know if "the one" has shown up. Good luck! :)

Greg said...

Dating is always a long, drawn out process. Just know what you want, and stick to it; you'll find it.

Michael Dodd said...

I recall sitting with a friend and talking about how guys our age go about meeting guys, where do you go, what do you do and so on and so on. We were both entering this world in our 50s after 30 years of a whole 'nother life -- married for him, ordained for me. Neither of us drink, so bars were out. What do you do? We both had a lot of gay friends and a gay social life. But where do you look for THE ONE?

At some point, I thought, "What I really need to do is meet someone like Tom." And a second later it registered: "Why am I not dating this guy sitting in front of me?" Six years later, we are registered domestic partners. (Marriage someday, if that ever becomes possible for us.)

My point? Keep your eyes and ears open to what you are saying and to whom, and what you are hearing and from whom. You may already have found one another and not yet realize it.

MICK said...

I agree with Michael. Also don't compare him to someone else. I like this one fella but he is always oggling over celebrities I could never compete with, so I don't try. Eh...one day he will open his eyes...hope it won't be too late. Good luck Joe!!

RG said...

I could occupy your free time quite nicely. And, it certainly would be a vacation you'd remember, that's for sure. :)