Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Road Trip

OK, first off, my date was very nice.  It's a guy I really like and want to see again.  Not sure if he's the same on that score or not, but I think so.  He talked a lot; I listened a lot.  Maybe their will be some more "mutuality" in that regard next time around.  I am a good listener, but I want some air time, too.  We'll see.  Friday evening, we had dinner and walked around downtown.  This is one hopping little city, so downtown is very, very lively on a Friday evening.  It was good.  I know you're wondering . . . . .but it was just dinner and conversation.  Not that it's any of you business, and not that I'd tell you, anyway.

Eldest daughter is graduating from college this Saturday.  Yeehaa!  So tomorrow I leave for the long trip out (510+ miles there - then back again on Sunday).  It will be good to get her home, give her some TLC.  Dad's coming out process has weighed heavily on her, and some depression has set in. It isn't so much my being gay as separating from their mom, leaving the house, upsetting everything she had known as "real."  So, what is real now?

Though I believe my living authentically, telling the truth, and being who I am is very important, for me, and for her, it is going to take some time and work for her to get use to that.  We will take the time.  We will do the work.  It will be good.

9 comments:

Ultra Dave said...

It will be good!!!

behrmark said...

Sir, it's all good. You're handling this beautifully and through your own strength, self-awareness, and capacity for listening she will be good as well.

Lemuel said...

Congratulations to your daughter on her graduation. May it go well with you all.

manxxman said...

Wonderful things......graduations.

Congrats.

Ice John's World said...

It will be a good new start for your daughter as well! Good luck!

BentonQuest said...

Yes, it will be good. It may take some time, but it will work.

Congrats on the graduation, too!

BadgerBear said...

Hey! Can you stop in and see us on your way back? I know we're a wee tad off the beaten track for you, but we'd love to see you if you can do it!

:-*
j

BadgerBear said...

And good on you for your date :-) As for air time, you're such a beautiful thinker and speaker - you deserve someone who gives you good air.

Birdie said...

A lot of us tend to fill dead air with words when we're nervous. You'll get your turn. :)

Your honesty and willingness to talk will be a huge component of a successful transition for you and your daughter. Congratulations on remaining authentic for her as well as yourself. And congratulations on her graduation!