Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Sticky Wickets

OK, it's getting warmer.  The snow is going.  The sap is rising.  Yes, mine, too.

Tonight at a function at my place of business, where many people show up for dinner and a program, we had beer with supper.  Now that's a little different, but not unheard of for us.  We are a fun crowd.

I was the program, or I should say, I was presenting the program.  It was entertaining, basically accurate, lively, informative, and entertaining.  Well, I am entertaining. 

There is someone with whom I work, another gay man, who seems interested in me.  Hmmmm......  There is, however, a small problem:  we work together.

Well, actually, it is one very big-ass problem:  I am kind of, well, his supervisor.  Oh hell, I am his boss, the boss, the Big Boss.  This kind of thing could prove very sticky (and not in a good way).

I like him.  He is nice.  But I'm not  . . . .  I don't know.  It could be ethically challenging.  I am SO glad I'm not a congressman.

Why the Green Man tonight?  Well, why ever not.  Hope for Spring.

17 comments:

BentonQuest said...

Tough one! Tread carefully.

Cubby said...

I agree with BQ. Tread carefully!

jim said...

This is not a tough one. You CANNOT date someone who reports to you at work. Most business have rules about that. If the relationship goes south you are opening yourself up for all kinds of liability. If the relationship goes will, you will open yourself to liability from others if they feel you are showing preference for your boyfriend.

The bigger boss you are, the more liability you incur. I am not a lawyer, but you would be taking a HUGE risk.

Maybe there is a way for him to transfer to another groups so he has a different supervisor. That would make it better.

Good Luck and be careful.

Tobey said...

I have to agree with Jim. He should be considered off limits until he either works somewhere else or is under another boss. Wow, I know that has to be hard though.

Jim said...

I too agree with the other Jim. I always say; "don't get your meat where you make your bread!"

Jeremiah Andrews said...

Have you heard the saying that:

"Don't SHIT where you eat..."

Ethics my dear man. Ethics. After all that drama about coming out you end up here... Just what you need is to get involved with someone you work with. YOU are a glutton for punishment.

Run, Run in the other direction and don't look back... Never mix business with pleasure, especially after the last six months...

Jeremy

Brent said...

Jeremiah gave you the advice that I was given. Don't do it... It will cause way too much drama in your life.

Ur-spo said...

This is simple - don't shit where you eat.
Nuff said. Discussion closed.

Lemuel said...

Little Sir Echo that I am - do. not. do. it.

Greg said...

Tread very carefully. Office romances are generally something to avoid.

Dyl said...

Go there if you want but be prepared to deal with the fallout.

rjjs8878 said...

I agree with Jim and Tobey. My partner is a lawyer and acts as corporate counsel for a medium size privately held firm. He recently had to deal with a boss/worker relationship gone bad. The boss was a senior manager. The worker left the company with a cash settlement. The boss demoted. It was a mess and probably ruined the career for the boss at this company.

rjjs8878 said...

I agree with Jim and Tobey. My partner is a lawyer and acts as corporate counsel for a medium size privately held firm. He recently had to deal with a boss/worker relationship gone bad. The boss was a senior manager. The worker left the company with a cash settlement. The boss demoted. It was a mess and probably ruined the career for the boss at this company.

MICK said...

There is an electrician/handy man that works for my company and he and I have figured each other out. He has even squeezed my shoulder in a sign of confirmation and interest.

There is no way, as much I would like to, take advantage of it.

NO WAY.

Think with the RIGHT head on this one, Joe.

It's not worth ruining all you've worked so hard for.

MICK said...

Beware the ides of March.

publius100 said...

My dear friend--Jim is absolutely correct: you don't put your meat where you make your bread. And as you know, I am a lawyer. Your personal liability snags your employer's liability and all hell breaks loose. Everybody loses. Everybody.

T said...

After all that has brought you to this point it would be reckless to do something that would jeopardize your future standing. And for all you know it could just as easily be setting yourself for a harassment lawsuit where you made the office environment a hostile one for your subordinate. Just put a smile on, wave, and keep it moving.