I came across this story today (from Wayne Besen's site) about Rugby player Gareth Thomas coming out. I don't look anything like Gareth Thomas (don't I wish!), but our stories are similar. Maybe your story, too.
I can so relate to the pain, anguish, shame, the whole thing. Can't most of us relate to it? Especially those of us who did marry. If only the brain-dead conservative could believe.
The dominant culture, the ones with the privilege, still hold to the expectation that everyone should be like them. And even that everyone wants to be like them. The danger of White Straight Male Privilege.
But we are different. Gifted by Otherness.
I understand more and more the concept of gay Pride. It is not about flaunting anything or saying "we're better" (we are, however, more fabulous). It is about claiming, accepting, and living our lives in the face of such anger, hatred, and opposition. In the face of the dominance of the White Straight Male culture.
And, our Pride should open our hearts to an understanding and acceptance, compassion and mercy.
Still, I wish I looked like Gareth Thomas. But, maybe next year. . . . .