Shame for the acting out, the addiction, the pain I've caused through that is one thing. But no longer do I want to feel shame for being gay. Sure, I'm sad this didn't "all work out" years ago, but this is where we are. Life on Life's terms, not mine.
So, as I've mentioned, I've been reading Gifted by Otherness by Wm. Countryman and M.R. Ritley. Also, I read Soul Beneath the Skin, by David Nimmons.
In dealing with being gay and a sex addict, Cruise Control by Robert Weiss has helped sort through some things.
Any "affirmation books" -- you know, the little ones with daily readings? Something short and easy to digest.
When it comes to coming out and discovering what it means to be gay, I know it is more than just sex, for goodness sake. But when it comes to the sex part, I'm not interested in books. I am awaiting a time when I can experience some intensive on-the-job-training (LOL) So, I'll let y'all know when to keep your calendars open!
- For others out there, what's been helpful for you in accepting yourself as gay, and in working toward wholeness?