Saturday, January 06, 2007

Efficascious Ephiphany

Happy Epiphany, all. This is the feast remembering the arrival of the Wise Men. I'd love for some wise guy to drop by and offer me a gift. . . . . . but I'll just let that be, for now. Give me some time.

And, Happy New Year to one and all, as well. The year past was certainly one of many changes for me, and for my household. This new year comes with many more dramatic changes in store. It is frightening.

On the other hand, there is some excitement in the idea of some new "freedom." But I ache for my family, my wife and children, as to what this will all mean for them/to them. Yes, I know there are many challenges facing me, but I'm too well conditioned to worry about others, first. And, when it comes to my kids, well. . . . . . I don't ever want to hurt them. But the truth is the most honest thing.

And all at once the crowd begins to sing
We'd never know what's wrong without the pain
Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same

from the song "All at Once" by the Fray, album How to Save a Life


Ur-spo said...

my experience is kids today are very plastic and hip; they will be fine.
and so will you.

Brian said...

Mine are doing fine, Joe. They don't yet know they're father is objectively disordered, but I remain part of their everyday lives and they're coping well. Kids are resilient, just keep loving them.

A Troll At Sea said...


An elderly woman with a gay son once told there were only two things you had to do to make sure your kids will come out all right. The years have borne it out, for me.

Let them know you love them.

Do the best you can.

That's it.
I think of her every time I tell that story, which is every time I hear parents worrying about how they're doing.

And nowadays, with one child holding me in pretty much microscopic esteem, I even remind myself of what she said, occasionally. [

Hang in there.

bear said...

Happy New Year! Welcome the challenges and changes and hope it all works out. Be brave and do your best to minimize any "hurt". Hang in there.