tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post6040557205939782045..comments2024-03-22T14:19:36.812-04:00Comments on Bear Me Out - the mind of a bear: Caution: feelings ahead: abandon logic at this pointBeartoasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07629488754337171368noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-35198857434624885402007-09-17T19:26:00.000-04:002007-09-17T19:26:00.000-04:00Sorry things are hard on you right now, I've been ...Sorry things are hard on you right now, I've been there. Still go there on occasion in thought. But still find a little happiness even when it's raining hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-77341450853702710482007-09-16T20:35:00.000-04:002007-09-16T20:35:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you're having a rough time... I suspect...I'm sorry you're having a rough time... I suspect you have some amazing experiences in your future... I have found that the more I put things in God's hands and just let it all hang out, more sense of freedom and happiness I experience... I have to keep telling myself that integrity will set me free... So far so good... :)Tay Hotahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01131996190515869055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-22888230871939755732007-09-15T10:17:00.000-04:002007-09-15T10:17:00.000-04:00the 'shoulds' are pounding at you and they are thr...the 'shoulds' are pounding at you and they are threatened by your new growths; they tend to shout and haunt when the status quo if being threatened; overall a good sign that you are doing well and they are only a deck of cards.....Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-38283868858359470192007-09-14T10:04:00.000-04:002007-09-14T10:04:00.000-04:00Hey buddy, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling ...Hey buddy, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I can honestly say that I do empathize. Not a day goes by when I have those wishing I were straight feeling. I'm not in anyway, except for the blogosphere out. At least you are facing the fact that you are gay, that to many you are already out. <BR/>Take it day by day. I've always believed that if God takes you to it, He'll take you through it.johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16755439918003129391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-44300678995920397182007-09-14T03:45:00.000-04:002007-09-14T03:45:00.000-04:00"caution: feelings ahead: abandon logic"...lol. I ..."caution: feelings ahead: abandon logic"...lol. I wish similiar things about being "normal" like you, but there's a difference...you actually got to LIVE that life and have wonderful kids to show for it etc. I don't and can only imagine...so in that aspect I'm envious you got to live it.<BR/>I see how this can create a larger dilemna as people have a higher expectation of you should you come out...my dilemna is I can't even trick anyone now that I'm getting older and "don't even have a girlfriend." So you have a good "cover" for anyone you do NOT want to out yourself to. I don't, being older and a "single" man = you're gay. So I'm envious #2.<BR/>In general, I'd say you're luckier than some so count your blessings, you got kids who love you, and you can always dodge the uncomfortable questions (where's the girlfriend/ why not married?) from people who don't need to know by referring to a divorce or your kids! You can use this "double life" to your advantage. I can't. Lucky you!<BR/>My experience is people's reaction to you will be very unpredictable and can change drastically. Church is the toughest...sure, it's clear to you that it's not a choice because you live it every day, but it's not clear to many Christians who feel deep inside it's still "sin". This will be the biggest struggle that won't resolve itself easily. Hang tough, I do think it will become easier to deal with this in time...you'll see. Tread lightly, enjoy the unique view.bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17303698155753090199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-3259659164090305652007-09-13T18:28:00.001-04:002007-09-13T18:28:00.001-04:00As you know, you echo my struggle. You are just a...As you know, you echo my struggle. You are just a number of steps ahead of me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-64801645175688261442007-09-13T18:28:00.000-04:002007-09-13T18:28:00.000-04:00BearToast:Hang in there. Not everything, but many...BearToast:<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Not everything, but many things, will become clear as time goes by. <BR/><BR/>Other things, like the inability of the mainstream Protestant denominations to talk about ANYthing but sex, and particularly our brand of it, do not, apparently. Dorothy Sayers, who was an unwed mother, wrote astringently that anyone listening to most churchmen would come to the conclusion that there was only one Deadly Sin. Actually, she said, lust came fairly far down the list. I think you'll find it in "Creed or Chaos" -- a title I wish I had come up with, btw.<BR/><BR/>You will need time to find a balance between what you were and what you are. I am still wrestling with that, and sometimes, when I see a young couple with children, I want to cry: I feel that I have cut myself off from that "normal" life. Well, as long as I was part of it, how normal was it?<BR/><BR/>Hang in there.<BR/>I'm glad you posted again.<BR/>It always soothes the worry-nerves.<BR/><BR/>T@CA Troll At Seahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247836451322342385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-57879522416523077032007-09-13T10:12:00.000-04:002007-09-13T10:12:00.000-04:00Not that it's easy to leave a church, particularly...Not that it's easy to leave a church, particularly if it's one where you've been for a while, but I've always believed that church is the LAST place that should make you feel uncomfortable. There's a reason they call it a "sanctuary", after all.<BR/><BR/>Our little Presbyterian Church has been through the ringer several times over the sexuality BS in our denomination. Eventually we decided to stop asking for permission, and we just do as we please. Makes things much happier, I can tell you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com