tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post5307328447542696252..comments2024-03-22T14:19:36.812-04:00Comments on Bear Me Out - the mind of a bear: A Gay BarBeartoasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07629488754337171368noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-489281043036598952007-11-12T20:49:00.000-05:002007-11-12T20:49:00.000-05:00I stumbled upon your blog and good for you! You're...I stumbled upon your blog and good for you! You're on your way to finding out who you really are deep down inside and each step of your journey will bring you closer to self actualization. Cheers!!!WheelerCubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15534797507027409487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-77070067060212250212007-07-13T04:15:00.000-04:002007-07-13T04:15:00.000-04:00It's not surprising that you're feeling good. Afte...It's not surprising that you're feeling good. After all, the lying, cheating, and denial are all like having a poisoned arrow in your chest. Pulling it out is the first step to recovery and healing...<BR/><BR/>Congratulations. You have done the right things, and it sounds like you have done them the right way. There is much to commend there.<BR/><BR/>It sounds ridiculous, but I envy you the freedom of the gay bar.<BR/><BR/>When I was in Chicago, and had access to some of the best gay bars (reasonably decent places where I would have gone with non-drinking friends to just hang out) I was too desperately closeted to even consider it.<BR/><BR/>Now, in Toledo, the gay bars here have a reputation of being like a bus-terminal lavatory - just this side of disgusting.<BR/><BR/>Add to that that as a guy in recovery, about the last place I belong when I'm hungry, angry, lonely or tired is a bar, and yeah, I get envious of your ability to just go in and have a few beers and a few hugs.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, I can get the hugs at the gay AA meetings. But it's not a great pickup/hookup location.<BR/><BR/>God, grant me the serenity to just accept where the hell I'm at. And to celebrate your newfound freedom, peace and self-acceptance.Steve F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12697100521186605498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-71288481809398328992007-07-11T11:13:00.000-04:002007-07-11T11:13:00.000-04:00BearToast:congratulations! it took me weeks to st...BearToast:<BR/><BR/>congratulations! it took me weeks to stop mourning, look around, and try to connect. But I did, and while I can't say that the men I met in those first months are likely to remain my closest friends for life, I do owe them an enormous debt of gratitude for reaching out to me when I felt completely alone and without any place to call home.<BR/><BR/>Keep up the good work.<BR/>And don't give up on what counts... becoming fully yourself.<BR/><BR/>T@CA Troll At Seahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247836451322342385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-60862953449521536102007-07-10T15:01:00.000-04:002007-07-10T15:01:00.000-04:00This is probably the most upbeat post I have ever ...This is probably the most upbeat post I have ever seen on your blog. I'm very happy for you. Don't feel guilty about being happy. Just take it easy.Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08732955876428732569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-802571100603427902007-07-10T06:23:00.000-04:002007-07-10T06:23:00.000-04:00dude so glad to hear this, this is awesome, cannot...dude so glad to hear this, this is awesome, cannot wait for my time....how is your wife doing with all this and the kids......so happy for you buddydaveinclevelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12322520630429327304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-46921895692243999912007-07-10T06:19:00.000-04:002007-07-10T06:19:00.000-04:00I am so happy for you! I think this all bodes wel...I am so happy for you! I think this all bodes well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-2260859612784234482007-07-10T05:21:00.000-04:002007-07-10T05:21:00.000-04:00A good feeling to escape the closet - it's the WOR...A good feeling to escape the closet - it's the WORST!! Brave step too, with the family. I found connecting and making gay friends (not just people to sleep with) was really helpful in the transition and coping. :)<BR/>I wonder if the compulsion is really a reaction to repressing your feelings towards other guys, and now that you're not, the compulsion has gone, er, subsided. I think it happened to me too...the sight of ANY bearish guy would drive me nuts, now I'm MUCH more descriminating.bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17303698155753090199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-38824396392587148552007-07-09T23:21:00.000-04:002007-07-09T23:21:00.000-04:00the trip through the eye of the needle!the trip through the eye of the needle!Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18974473.post-65046183456345866302007-07-09T22:34:00.000-04:002007-07-09T22:34:00.000-04:00Yay for you!!Yay for you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com